Have you ever gone over the same point in your head, again and again, beating yourself up for something you did or didn’t do? Once you start noticing that you are coming back to the same thing and you are getting tired of it, then it’s time to draw a line in the sand. 

Accept that whatever happened, happened and symbolically step over the line to move forward. I know it’s not always easy but how I see it is that rather than dwell on the past, it’s better to use your time more constructively going forward. There may be relapses however the more you become aware of it, the easier it will be to snap out and move forward again.

Let’s take an example, let’s say you stopped exercising and was out of the habit. I’ve been there and have often felt bad. Rather than continuing to feel bad, commit to doing something small today even if it’s just a 5-minute walk around the block. That is way more than nothing.

Another would be that you are annoyed with yourself for saying something to someone. Sometimes we beat ourselves up. You could instead accept that you did it, forgive yourself and decide how you will do things differently in the future.

We are human.  We don’t always get things right.  That’s part of being human. So be super kind to yourself and know when it’s time to stop beating yourself up and step over the line in the sand.