“There’s no such thing as rejection, only alignment” – Stephanie Zhong

Last week, I attended the Selena Soo 2 day virtual retreat as part of the Impact Accelerator program and I had many insights. 

One of the amazing ladies in the group Stephanie Zhong (1) who is a storytelling coach, writer and inclusion activist struck a chord with the group with this statement.  How many of us have avoided rejection? I know I have. If we could only reframe rejection as alignment to experiences that are more suitable for ourselves going forward – would we be less afraid to try things?

It reminded me of a story I held onto for a while. When I was organizing a big event for my old company, I approached a “local celebrity” in Zurich and was over the moon when they agreed to speak at my event. When we met to discuss, there wasn’t a good connection and later on, they sent me a mail saying that they had changed their mind. I was gutted and totally disappointed. I remember speaking to a good friend about it and he said it didn’t sound like a good fit anyway. It was so true. It didn’t feel like it at the time, but with hindsight, it was alignment showing me what was right for me and my business instead.

What do you think? Do you think there’s no such thing as rejection, just alignment or do you think something else? 

If you would like help letting go of past rejection, contact me for a complimentary discovery call to discuss.


  1. https://www.stephaniezhong.com/