“If I’m not actively doing anything about it, then I’m choosing it”. 

This statement stuck in my mind. My neighbour and I have similar aged kids so we were discussing the latest challenges we were facing. She said that she moved her daughter’s bedtime earlier which gave her, her evening back and her daughter slept right the way through the night.

She said she was applying this statement in many areas. If there was something she wasn’t happy with, then she did something about it. I’m also a fan of this philosophy and it reminded me of a saying a coach told me many years ago, “Love it, change it or leave it”. We were talking about work situations at the time.

Of course, there are times where you try to change something and you’re still not happy but at least, you have tried. You can’t say you haven’t done anything and that is better than doing nothing.

Is there something in your life that is bothering you? Are you doing anything about it? If not, it sounds harsh and it’s not meant to be, but you are actively choosing it in some way by allowing it to continue.

As I write this, I can imagine that some people will be triggered by this. Even I feel it’s triggering me. If you are one of those people, why is it triggering you? Time to take back control. You’re not a victim. What are you going to do about it?