“People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime.
When you figure out which one it is, you will know what to do for each person.”

Have you ever heard this phrase – A friend for a reason, a season or a lifetime? I’ve known this phrase for years and today I found out it’s from a poem (1).

One of my mastermind buddies recently said “I want to grow” and “I want love and connection”. She explained that she wanted to grow and develop herself and her business but she was afraid of losing her old friends. She wanted to stay loved and connected with them. Part of her wanted to move forward, another part was holding her back. She found herself rather torn so she was staying in the same place.

If she decides that she wants to grow, some of her friends will grow with her, support her and some won’t. And that’s part of life.

So when friendships drift apart or end, we can look at them in a different light. Rather than feel sorry, regret or try to hold on too much, we can look at what we brought each other. We can acknowledge the wonderful times, the reasons why we were good together for a period and why it’s now ok to move on.

Which friendships do you have for a reason, a season or a lifetime?


1) Reason, Season, Lifetime Poem

People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime.

When you figure out which one it is,
you will know what to do for each person.

When someone is in your life for a REASON,
it is usually to meet a need you have expressed.
They have come to assist you through a difficulty;
to provide you with guidance and support;
to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually.
They may seem like a godsend, and they are.
They are there for the reason you need them to be.

Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time,
this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end.
Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away.
Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand.
What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled; their work is done.
The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is time to move on.

Some people come into your life for a SEASON,
because your turn has come to share, grow or learn.
They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh.
They may teach you something you have never done.
They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy.
Believe it. It is real. But only for a season.

LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons;
things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation.
Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person,
and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life.
It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.

— Unknown